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Finally, do you know it’s possible to become aware of and permanently delete these self destructive relationship patterns once and for all and learn to make the “right” choice in a partner this time? How does one do that you ask?

There they generate negative beliefs about you such as: I’m unlovable, I’m inadequate, I’m unattractive, I’m unwanted, I’m unworthy and so on. Those negative and self destructive beliefs subconsciously block your ability to make discerning and healthy choices and magnetically draw to you exactly the kind of men that will confirm those beliefs for you.

You, see if you felt unworthy and you were to actually find someone who was healthy then something inside would take charge of you and cause you to sabotage that connection because, after all, deep down you believe you are “unworthy” of having such a fulfilling relationship. Alternately you may find yourself drawing exactly what this internal program has planned for you; guys who are unhealthy and possibly unavailable.

By the way, this program is also what drives many affairs.

Now there is a way to free yourself from this self destructive pattern which is simple, effective and permanent. It does however require a degree of courage; the courage to face the painful past and permanently erase it! You see by erasing negative memories responsible for, say, feelings of unworthiness, those feelings completely disappear and you begin feeling whole, complete, deserving, good about yourself, attractive, open, confident, and so on.

So how does one do that?

A decade ago a new coaching process was developed that has the capacity to permanently erase negative memories like those discussed above and set you and your relationship life on an entirely new and satisfying course. To learn more about this kindly visit the website below where you can request a free introductory telephone/Skype consultation that will begin to take you there.

Author’s Bio: 

Nick Arrizza, a former Psychiatrist and Medical Doctor, is an International Expert Life, Relationship and Spiritual Tele-Coach, Author and the developer of the powerful Mind Resonance Process® (MRP).

A Free 1 Hour Introductory MRP Telephone/Skype Coaching Consultation And Free Copy of My E-book are available upon request (You will be asked to cover your own long distance telephone charges)

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So why is it that a beautiful woman turns even the seemingly most macho man into rubber? Well it has everything to do with the repertoire of unconscious needs most men carry within them without realizing it.

These consist of things such as:

1. The need to be accepted.
2. The need to be perceived as attractive.
3. The need to be liked.
4. The need to appear smart, confident, cool, and together.
5. The need to be validated.
6. The need to have an attractive sexual partner.
7. The need for a sexual experience.

And so on.

Let’s look at the “need to be liked” as an example.

Most people think this need helps them show their best self, so that they can appear attractive, congenial, friendly, smart, confident, present, understanding, empathic, acceptable, and therefore likable.

In other words if we were to summarize it might be said that: The need to be liked makes one feel attractive, congenial, friendly, smart, confident, present, understanding, empathic, acceptable, and therefore likable.

So how attractive is that? Not at all!

Yet, if all men harbor these needs where is the solution to this problem to be found?

Well, it turns out that now one can permanently delete these needs from within and evolve into a supremely self confident, self assured, self sufficient, emotionally independent, and attractive male rather easily and quickly.

Author’s Bio: 

Nick Arrizza, a former Psychiatrist and Medical Doctor, is an International Expert Self Empowerment Life Coach, Relationship and Spiritual Tele-Coach, Author and the developer of the powerful Mind Resonance Process® (MRP).

A Free 1 Hour Introductory MRP Telephone/Skype Coaching Consultation And Free Copy of My E-book are available upon request (You will be asked to cover your own long distance telephone charges)

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Do you know that healing a broken heart after a breakup can only happen if the memory of the event is completely and permanently erased from your mind? Does this sound preposterous to you? Does this sound impossible? Does this arouse skepticism and doubt about whether you should read further? Well here is the reason why you really can’t pass this article up?

All negative memories inherently become downloaded into your mind/body once the memory of the event takes place. Those memories remain inside of you for the rest of your life. Although over time they begin to feel more and more remote to your conscious awareness they still continue to wreak havoc on your life in a very direct way.

For example, the fear of rejection is generated, fueled and sustained by negative memories of rejection and or abandonment long after the events in question have supposedly faded from conscious awareness. The fear serves as a marker and as debilitating evidence that the negative memory is still very much present and active in one’s life.

In my 20 years of experience as a psychotherapist, hypnotherapist, and psychiatrist I have come to the sad realization that no modality that fails to completely erase the offending original negative memories will provide any positive and/or permanent results.. With that realization a new coaching process was developed over a decade ago that essentially does just that i.e. it erases negative memories, thoughts and limiting beliefs completely and permanently.

When applied to the pain associated with a broken heart it helps to restore one to their pre-injured state in ways that are difficult to even describe here. Let me say simply that after the process an individual will feel like the event didn’t even happen. How does one explain what that can possibly feel like if they haven’t actually experienced it directly? Well they can’t!

There you can also request a free e-copy of my book and/or request a free introductory telephone/Skype consultation that will help you kick start your relationship life.

Author’s Bio: 

Nick Arrizza, a former Psychiatrist and Medical Doctor, is an International Expert Life, Relationship and Spiritual Tele-Coach, Author and the developer of the powerful Mind Resonance Process® (MRP).

A Free 1 Hour Introductory MRP Telephone/Skype Coaching Consultation And Free Copy of My E-book are available upon request (You will be asked to cover your own long distance telephone charges)

I didn’t date a lot when I was younger. I always used to say it was because I enjoyed hanging out with my friends (which I did), but really it was more about never getting asked out. Everyone wants to be liked. Everyone wants to be asked out. College I dated more, well hung out with guys, …

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There are a number of individuals who are in relationship who are not yet ready for such a commitment.

One of the biggest issues with such individuals relates to what many therapists classify as a personality disorder. Personality disorders pertain to failed maturation of the individual’s personality. This often poses difficulties for the success of a relationship.

One of the worst scenarios I have seen in my years of practice has to do with what I call the Narcissist-Borderline Relationship.

A narcissistic personality disorder, which occurs more commonly in males, is basically speaking the result of early parental neglect and leaves an individual with a deep sense of inadequacy about themselves. The personality structure that forms around this inner pain of inadequacy includes a behavioral repertoire which drives the individual to elicit extraordinary amounts of attention from others.

These individuals often appear as very arrogant, charismatic, extroverted and attention seeking. At the same time they feel extremely emotionally vulnerable to rejection and may fly into a rage if they are slighted in this way.

The borderline personality structure basically results when a child, usually female, is not only neglected but abused, often sexually. The child is not only traumatized but the personality fragments into relating to the world as either a “good and agreeable” individual or as an “angry and disagreeable” individual. Like the narcissist personality, the borderline personality is also very vulnerable to feelings of rejection and can easily become enraged by such slights.

As the narcissist has a need for attention and the borderline has a need for love and rescue there is a tendency for these two to match up in order to get their own needs met.

The narcissist is perceived by the borderline as the charming, charismatic, caring, and loving hero who is there to rescue them.

Alternately the narcissist perceives the borderline’s “good and agreeable” self as caring, admiring, and loving.

Of course all of this early posturing can only go on for so long.

As soon as one perceives the other as rejecting the problems begin. I’m sure you can imagine how things can deteriorate badly given the sensitivity of each to personal slights along with their tendency to be easily set off in a volatile fashion by such slights.

Unfortunately because of their respective neediness they often find it difficult to let go of the other. So they get locked in a mutually abusive situation that further traumatizes them both.

If you read my article on “Emotional Landmines” you will appreciate how one might address this problem in a satisfactory manner.

The solution to such a problem is to help each individual heal the internal trauma that they each harbor.

This however takes courage as each individual will need to face the trauma they carry rather than simply try to suppress it or try to compensate for the negative effects it causes.

Author’s Bio: 

Nick Arrizza, a former Psychiatrist and Medical Doctor, is an International Expert Self Empowerment Life Coach, Relationship and Spiritual Tele-Coach, Author and the developer of the powerful Mind Resonance Process® (MRP).

A Free 1 Hour Introductory MRP Telephone/Skype Coaching Consultation And Free Copy of My E-book are available upon request (You will be asked to cover your own long distance telephone charges)

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Do you know that bad relationship choices are driven by old unmet emotional needs that often undermine one’s ability to make healthy, self respecting and discerning choices in relationships (and other areas of life)?

For instance suppose one was abandoned early in life they would have stored within them the memory of that event. With it would be associated negative self beliefs such as: I’m unwanted, I’m unlovable, I’m inadequate, I’m unattractive, I’m defective, I’m worthless, and so on.

These beliefs make one feel like they are deficient or lacking and therein lays the source of the feelings of neediness. The need is often so intolerable that it must be “filled in” or “met” in anyway possible. As most people are also led to believe that the only way to achieve this is to “get” what they need from someone else this leads them to desperately connect with anyone who will give them some attention.

As I think you can see this is not a wise strategy because the attention they get from others may not necessarily be for their best interests. This drive to fulfill these intolerable needs makes them vulnerable to making unwise impulsive choices that puts them in danger of being further hurt and/or exploited. This of course only deepens the problem and the cycle continues.

What most people do not realize is that the emptiness associated with their emotional neediness can only be filled internally. So you might ask how is that possible if the person feels deficient to start with?

LFE becomes progressively depleted from the mind/body each time an individual experiences a negative life event and then has the memory of that event downloaded into their mind/body. Those memories behave as what I have termed LFE Parasites that feed off of one’s life energy thereby leaving one feeling depleted, deficient and hence “needy”!

It is now possible with a new coaching process developed a decade ago to restore LFE to the mind/body simply by erasing/deleting these negative memories from the subconscious mind where they reside. This systematically, permanently, and cumulatively helps to restore one to a state of wholeness and completeness.

This also puts them firmly back in control of their lives and able to make wise, self respecting and discerning choices in all areas of life.

So if you are one of those individuals who is caught in a negative cycle of making bad relationship choices and you would like to end this, take your life back and start having healthy relationships kindly visit the web site below where you can request a free introductory telephone/Skype coaching consultation that will begin to take you there today.

Author’s Bio: 

Nick Arrizza, a former Psychiatrist and Medical Doctor, is an International Expert Life, Relationship and Spiritual Tele-Coach, Author and the developer of the powerful Mind Resonance Process® (MRP).

A Free 1 Hour Introductory MRP Telephone/Skype Coaching Consultation And Free Copy of My E-book are available upon request (You will be asked to cover your own long distance telephone charges)

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Do you know that most people, whether they choose to admit it to themselves or not, feel a sense of inadequacy and incompleteness within? How do I know this? Well if you look around and witness the extent to which many attempt to prop themselves up with wealth, sexy looks, flashy clothes, fancy cars, hip partners, plastic surgery, power, etc. you will recognize that there is a deep need that is attempting to satisfy itself here. Do you know that need is essentially insatiable and speaks to a deep feeling of emptiness that lies at the core of the current human condition?

Finally do you know that “condition” is an abnormal one that not only needs permanent rectification but which can be rectified if approached in the correct manner? What is that approach you ask?

This feeling of emptiness is more often recognized or “felt” as feelings of inadequacy or incompleteness. The former is probably more familiar to most while the latter gets cloaked behind relationships. After all, how many times have you heard the phrase “you complete me”?

So how is this empty state “abnormal” you ask if it is all around us and being experienced by practically everyone you know? Well for one because it “feels” bad, uncomfortable and undesirable. Secondly, it has control over practically everyone’s life. In other words individuals who obsessively try to navigate around this empty feeling are only feeling enslaved and dictated to by it.

So what is normal, you might ask?

Well, notice how this feels to you:

A person who feels whole, complete, adequate, emotionally independent, self sufficient, strong, confident, resilient, self directed, self assured, self validating, spontaneous, authentic, honest, living their truth, in integrity, peaceful, joyful, carefree, free and attractive, to name a few.

Now I know you will say that this sounds like a rarity and also impossible to achieve or sustain indefinitely given life’s stressors. I will say however that not only is this possible it is also supposed to be the “normal” human condition. So if that is the case how is that we find ourselves in such a sad, depleted, and debilitated state. More over what, if anything can be done to get us back “home” to ourselves?

Well, it turns out that the emptiness reflects a deficiency in what I call one’s Life Force Energy (or LFE). LFE is essentially the vital energy of life that is a) the source of all the positive resources I mentioned above and b) is responsible for the structural and functional integrity of your mind, body and life.

Each time a person experiences a stressful negative event the memory of the event gets downloaded into the subconscious mind/body and there behaves like a “hole” in the person’s energy field that constantly leaks out LFE rendering them feeling depleted and therefore empty.

It is now possible to permanently and completely “plug” those holes and restore LFE simply by deleting the memories of those stressful events from the mind/body. As this happens the person begins to return to their “normal” natural and empowered state as the human being they were meant to be.

To learn more about a new coaching process that has been helping individuals around the world achieve this kindly go the web site below where you can also request a free introductory telephone/Skype consultation that will begin to help you take your energy and your life back.

Author’s Bio: 

Nick Arrizza, a former Psychiatrist and Medical Doctor, is an International Expert Self Empowerment Life Coach, Relationship and Spiritual Tele-Coach, Author and the developer of the powerful Mind Resonance Process® (MRP).

A Free 1 Hour Introductory MRP Telephone/Skype Coaching Consultation And Free Copy of My E-book are available upon request (You will be asked to cover your own long distance telephone charges)

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For some of you this discussion may start to feel a bit esoteric but I can tell you, that over 13 years of experience has shown conclusively that what I outline here has validity.

Here we go.

The memory of parental divorce is “stored” inside of you as a negative memory. Simply by being there is adds to your identity or your so called personality i.e. “I am a child of divorced parents”.

Now notice how that makes you feel.

If you focus on it you’ll likely notice some or all of the following:

Feeling sadness, defective, unworthy, deficient, inadequate, ashamed, embarrassed, alone, different, angry, neglected, less than, like you missed out on something important, afraid of it happening to you and so on.

So what does all of this set you up for?

Well for many things but a few major things are that it undermines your confidence in a) your capability to have a relationship, b) your confidence in others and c) your confidence in relationships in general.

So what does all that do to you and your chances of having/sustaining a healthy relationship?

Clearly it lowers the odds doesn’t it?

Is there a way out of this? Absolutely!

One must dis-identify with that past event of parental divorce. They only way to do that is to erase that negative event from one’s subconscious mind permanently. It is now possible to do that with a new coaching tool called the Mind Resonance Process (MRP).

If you’d like to learn more about improving your relationship chances, reducing your chances of experiencing a divorce by erasing negative memories or to have a free telephone/Skype coaching consultation kindly visit the web link below.

Author’s Bio: 

Nick Arrizza, a former Psychiatrist and Medical Doctor, is an International Expert Self Empowerment Life Coach, Relationship and Spiritual Tele-Coach, Author and the developer of the powerful Mind Resonance Process® (MRP).

A Free 1 Hour Introductory MRP Telephone/Skype Coaching Consultation And Free Copy of My E-book are available upon request (You will be asked to cover your own long distance telephone charges)

Do you know that means you are stuck in a hypnotic child trance like state while trying to take on adult responsibilities such as a relationship?

Do you know that is bound to fail unless you are somehow able to wake up from this trance and remember and re-experience who you truly are, an empowered, mature, capable adult? Want to learn more?

If you still feel needy as a person you probably think that it has something to do with not having been properly nurtured as a child and that the only way to address this is to have those unmet needs fulfilled by a sufficiently caring and loving partner. Although many people buy into this notion few realize that this is a) unhealthy b) unsustainable and c) is not what love is about at all.

There is now an entirely new and empowering perspective on this state of neediness that readily provides a rapid and accessible solution which can begin to make healthy mature relationships feel like more of a real possibility. So what is that perspective?

Employing this metaphor I think you will readily accept that one simple and sure fire way to stop this self destructive behaviour is to delete the hypnotic suggestion. Well in the same way, and this is not a metaphor, a person who has supposed unmet needs from childhood is also the captive of a series of self destructive hypnotic suggestions made by caretakers when the individual was a child.

Children are highly suggestible simply because of the fact that they are small, weak, unable to care for themselves and therefore highly dependent on the care from the adults in their life. Their main aim is to survive hence when the environment around them is negative they must adapt and they do this by taking in and believing whatever negativity is hurled at them.

So if they are say abused, neglected, rejected, etc. they will attempt to adapt by believing that this means they are bad, defective, unlovable, deficient, inadequate, unworthy etc.

These are the “hypnotic” suggestions that leave them in a child like trance that persists well into their chronological adult years.

It is now possible to rapidly delete such suggestions and permanently wake up from these trances. In doing so the individual rapidly is restored to their mature adult authentic self and feels stable, self confident, self sufficient, independent, strong, resilient, self assured, and adult like just to name a few.

As I’m sure you can see this only makes healthy relationships much more possible and sustainable.

So if you would like to learn more about a new coaching process that can help you go from helpless needy child to your true authentic mature adult self kindly visit the web site below where you can also request a free introductory telephone/Skype consultation that will begin to take you there.

Author’s Bio: 

Nick Arrizza, a former Psychiatrist and Medical Doctor, is an International Expert Self Empowerment Life Coach, Relationship and Spiritual Tele-Coach, Author and the developer of the powerful Mind Resonance Process® (MRP).

A Free 1 Hour Introductory MRP Telephone/Skype Coaching Consultation And Free Copy of My E-book are available upon request (You will be asked to cover your own long distance telephone charges)

“Nice guys finish last” I’m sure many shy men can relate with this statement.

I’ve seen over the years that shy men have an air of “I’ll always be nice no matter what.” They are easily forgiving of others regardless of what the situation is.

Overly NICE guys also tend to remember things others did even though on the outside he’s forgiving about it; and these incidents just keep piling up more and more.
After reflecting on the question of “Why are they so nice even after being pushed around?” I realized it came down to one factor.

And here’s what really makes nice guys finish last…
When others are disapproving of us we feel the need to be even NICER just so we don’t lose whatever is left of their approval.

This is the wrong way to go and the results are quite the opposite. They can see you’ll do whatever it takes to hold on to acceptance and approval and they’ll keep as much of it away as possible. This is so you continue going the extra mile for whatever is left. It leaves you feeling exhausted, tired and sometimes confused as to why your efforts seldom get you lasting results.

Once upon a time that was ME, back when I didn’t have a clue.

The solution is to do the exact opposite. When others do something towards you that you don’t like make sure to show your displeasure towards it. Make YOUR attention and approval more scarce and therefore more valuable.
When it comes to treading over your personal time, property and your self-respect have less tolerance over others who have little or no respect towards you.

But don’t do it in a way where you lose composure. If someone always flakes on you when you’re supposed to meet just cut them away, stop talking to them, stop. Months later they’ll ask why you guys lost in touch (usually that’s when things aren’t going well for them and you come to mind as their last resort).

I do have to throw in a word of caution. It’s important to keep in mind that you want to be respectful and polite to others. Often times I see people going from overly nice to bitter mean. The point is to be the better person right?

Of course it is.

Here’s something else you can do.

Now that you know how to carry yourself in interactions I want you to meet with the same people and practice in small steps. Become aware of the instances where you really did find the actions of another unacceptable.

Maybe it was someone who stood you up, or maybe someone who is making jokes at your expense.

Tell them “That wasn’t cool”.

It won’t be easy at first speaking up if it’s something you’re not used to. But as you practice more and more you’ll get used to it like a steam locomotive picking up speed. Eventually you’ll get to a point where you notice yourself having more personal power and influence when interacting with people.

Author’s Bio: 

I was the guy who showed up to hang out and people would go “Ugh why’d they have to bring HIM?” and they’d avoid talking to me or even looking in my direction. I remember in high school I used to read about cool scientific facts and knowledge about the universe. And I’d remember it for conversations starters thinking it will mesmerize people and get them to notice me.

Yep, no one cared. I was shy, introverted and usually lonely.

But I wasn’t the type to throw in the towel. I studied some of the most extroverted outgoing people around and read about anthropology, ethology and psychology to understand what makes them so likable from a scientific point of view. Eventually I started getting the same success they were and created step by step methods to teach other introverted, shy men about being social and outgoing.

I met some famous people from Miss Korea, Jean-Claude Van Damme to small time movie directors in the area using some of my techniques.